Money Is More Than Math: Shifting From Scarcity to Abundance
Growing Up With a Scarcity Mindset
I used to think money was only math. It was numbers in a budget, cash in hand, and the constant stretching of resources to make ends meet. That way of thinking wasn’t random — scarcity was shaped by my childhood.
I grew up in a home where money was a source of stress and tension. Even if the bills were paid, the undercurrent was lack. Conversations about money carried weight, worry, and “not enough.” That scarcity mindset wove itself into me quietly but firmly.
Later, when I left nursing to become a stay-at-home mom, the old pattern was triggered again. My husband Matt was already carrying financial stress, and I knew my choice would add to that weight. I tried to reassure us both with: “The universe will take care of it.” But the truth was, I didn’t fully believe it. My body still held fear.
Scarcity wasn’t just a thought. It lived in me.
Living the Human Reality of Money
Scarcity doesn’t disappear overnight. Even now, we’ve faced seasons of debt creeping back, dipping into emergency funds, and months where money conversations carried more heaviness than hope.
We don’t fight about money, but the pressure is always there: mortgages, car payments, medical bills, childcare costs. These are real, unavoidable pieces of life.
And here’s the truth I had to learn: spiritual alignment doesn’t erase the human reality. A money mindset rooted in abundance isn’t about pretending bills don’t exist. It’s about deciding where I let my attention live.
I can choose to only stare at debt and lack. Or I can acknowledge reality while training my energy, body, and mindset to open toward overflow.
The Question That Shifted My Scarcity Mindset
The real turning point came one day while listening to a podcast. A guest said:
“Talk to money like you would a partner — not someone you’re desperate to attract, but someone you’re magnetically drawn to.”
That cracked something open in me. I didn’t suddenly start personifying money like a friend or lover, but I understood the deeper truth: money is energy.
It’s not just math. It’s movement, circulation, relationship, and reflection. It responds to the way I relate to it.
That idea changed everything.
Manifestation Is Feeling, Not Forcing
I used to believe manifestation meant scripting exact outcomes: the dollar amount, the date, the exact path. That only made me feel more pressure.
Now, manifestation for me is about normalizing the feeling.
- I visualize opening my bank account and seeing the amount I desire.
- I ask: What does this feel like in my body? Safety. Comfort. Opportunity. Contentment.
- I practice until it feels so familiar that my nervous system yawns, like: “Of course that’s a typical month.”
That’s when I know it’s anchored. My system isn’t grasping. It’s receiving.
This is the nervous system connection so many people overlook. You can repeat abundance affirmations all day, but if your body is still stuck in survival, the money leaks out through fear. Feeling safe is the foundation.
Rituals and Money Mindset Practices That Support Me
I’ve learned to flow between the practical and the spiritual. For me, it’s never one without the other:
- Journaling & Blogging — putting money stories on paper to shift them.
- Visualization & Affirmations — practicing the nervous system state of safety and overflow.
- Budgeting & Tracking — yes, I still use Excel. Energy doesn’t erase responsibility.
- Rituals — moon water, affirmations, or even lighting a candle to mark intention.
- Circulation — giving when I can, trusting money multiplies as it moves.
- Gratitude — saying thank you even when paying bills, because exchange means flow.
And sometimes, the universe reflects it back in unexpected ways: an inheritance from a distant relative, refunds we didn’t anticipate, generosity from family when we married. Each one has been a reminder that support can arrive from directions we never predict.
Reconciling the Shadows
Scarcity hasn’t disappeared. It still whispers: “What if it all falls apart?” Imposter syndrome still asks: “Who are you to thrive outside of nursing?”
The difference now is, I don’t silence the fear or pretend it doesn’t exist. I acknowledge it. And then I choose not to give it all of my attention.
Because where attention goes, energy flows. If I only feed survival, that’s where I’ll stay.
Abundance is not about ignoring shadows — it’s about facing them, choosing alignment anyway, and continuing to expand the space in my body for safety and overflow.
A Marriage of Two Money Mindsets
Matt and I don’t always see money the same way. He’s logical, grounded — a “see it to believe it” kind of man. I’m more of a “believe it to see it” kind of woman.
At first, that difference felt like friction. But over time, I’ve realized it’s balance. My dreaming eases his nervous system — it reminds him money doesn’t always have to feel heavy. His practicality grounds me — it keeps me rooted when I’m tempted to float away on ideas.
Together, our marriage holds both: survival and possibility. Math and energy.
The Truth About Money
Here’s what I know now: money is energy. And energy is choice.
We can choose fear. We can keep repeating the old scarcity story. Or we can choose to generate the feeling of abundance now, even before the numbers shift.
Because money is still math — bills, debt, budgeting. But it’s also energy — circulation, relationship, and flow.
For me, money has become a mirror. It reflects how safe, supported, and expanded I allow myself to feel.
And maybe that’s the invitation for you, too:
✨ If money was a partner, how would you want to relate to it?
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August 29, 2025
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